VBAC woes and advice

So I’m on this journey again, the one where women in my position have to fight for what we want when we give birth to our children.

So far I have been told I was insane for wanting a VBA2C. I for obvious reasons refused to see that ob again.

I was told to see him again twice and have refused. Finally yesterday I went to the VBAC clinic not actually knowing why, even they asked my why I was there. That annoyed me, you made the appointment, not me I just turned up, I don’t know why I am here!

I have also been told due  refurbishments  my requested c/section at 41 weeks won’t be able to go ahead and they really want me in at 39 weeks. I refused. So was told well then you can’t have one. Pretty sure they can’t refused and so began the letter writing.

Let me say that I write letters to the following people

• The supervisor of midwifes
• Chief Executive of the hospital

When I was refused a homebirth wit Jeremiah I wrote to

• My local PM
• The Prime Minister

and the above mentioned. I heard back from all of them except my local MP.

I’m informed. Many women aren’t through no fault of their own, and I hate thinking women go to these appointments and leave upset and hurt and frustrated and think there isn’t any other options but to do what the OB has said. We do have to keep an open mind especially when it comes to childbirth. But never feel alone. There is support out there through Yahoo VBAC groups and AIMS. And women like me. Willing to help you write a letter and to who you need to write to.

Yesterday at the clinic I was again treated with respect for my knowledge of VBAC and my choices not to see the bullying consultant. Instead I was told that I was in fact never of meant to have seen him, and I was actually under the care of another PRO VBAC OB whom I’ve never seen or heard of. I agreed to see her, to book my elective at 41 weeks. I was told they might suggest I have him at 39 weeks, but at the end of the day no surgery can go ahead without consent from me, and they would see my point of view and get the date booked.

My reasons for having a c/section at 41 weeks are due to the fact I have gone over in my last two pregnancies 41+2 with my daughter and she probably would of come later had I not insisted on being induced.

I went to 42 weeks with Jeremiah, and gave up and asked for a section and had a great maternal assisted cesarean.

I don’t want my baby born at 39 weeks and them to have breathing issues, the midwifes agree with me on this point and say it’s a very real reason to not want one especially with my history of going over due, my babies just aren’t ready!

But if I go into labour before 41 weeks then hell I plan to push that baby out. I am pretty scared of that thought. I am wondering if fear is what has stopped me labouring fully with Jerry each time I thought something was happening I felt fear of what was ahead hours and hours of pre-labour and me being scared. Ending with me crying, sweating, and begging for it to be over on the floor and no baby. And then 2 days later the same.

I tried so hard with the other two to go into labour I drank raspberry leaf tea so much I should of bought shares, I ate 300 pineapple, I tried everything. This time nothing. I can’t be bothered and to be honest I’m kinda hanging out for that cesarean. 2 days in hospital if it goes well. Will feel like a mini holiday for me LOL

In the meantime, I really should pack my hospital bag, print out both birth plans I had for Jerry not much will of changed. Order a swing for the baby  and relax as much as possible with being a full time mum to 2 kids!

Looking forward to the grandparents coming the 1st week of September to help me, Eliza starts school that week, Jerry starts Montessori and I’m due a baby. And I need a little help with all that!

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